I want to take a break from the Word of God and address another realistic approach to life. Just before I got married, I wrote the following;
Things I remember during down days...
As a human being, I’ve come to the conclusion that no one is perfect. Duh, like anyone is. There are people with issues greater or lesser than yours-you are always in between. Sometimes, people see me as 24/7 happy but this is far from the truth.
Occasionally, I get mood swings and encounter very irritating situations which makes me want to pull out my hair (after I must’ve turned bright orange in fury); but I’m quick to get out of it as soon as I remember certain things...
When you know your friends or people you know have something on you; take these steps
1. Arm yourself with information about them-their own secret shame, so you can use it should the need arise
2. Know that everyone is entitled to their opinion (of you) and it’s your prerogative to think they are stupid
3. Never let them know that you know they have something on you- continue to feign ignorance (‘cos they just won’t stop)!
If it gets so bad that they throw your shortcomings in your face, remember to/that
1. It’s obvious that you are indeed very special and they are vying for your attention
2. Continue with ignorance…it doesn’t mean you’re a coward, you don’t want to give them the time of day
3. It’s a minor event which will definitely occur in every phase of your life so use it to build yourself
In the event you hear a dear friend say something nasty about you i.e. gossiped about you
1. Cry it out if you can because bottling it up will only kill you…slowly
2. Confront him/her if you have to, especially if the relationship means a lot to you
3. Laugh it off on how stupid you were to confide in them. They won’t have told your story if you didn’t tell them!
You may have your own suggestions and approach to such circumstances but the above actions have been tried and tested and guess what, I worked!
